observer consciousness

 

Victim consciousness is a psychological state that perceives the world as being the cause of our well-being.Victim consciousness is not about the external situations we go through, nor is it about what other people do or say to us. Victim consciousness is a painful way of
thinking about the situations and life experiences we go through.


When we are in victim consciousness we mistreat others and ourselves while looking for someone or something to blame for the unhappy circumstances in our lives. In victim consciousness we either attack or retreat from life. There is no real, lasting peace to be
found in victim consciousness.


We cannot overcome victim consciousness by ignoring it, nor can we "defeat" it. We cannot attain freedom from victim consciousness through any kind of win-lose/victor-victim sort of challenge because that approach still leaves someone as the loser/victim. We trade places for the moment perhaps but we're still on the victim triangle.


The real antidote to victim consciousness is what I call observer consciousness.


Observer consciousness is the ability to detach from our life circumstances and personal encounters enough to observe and question them. Observer consciousness is a psychological state that is dependent upon the knowledge that our inside emotional state,
rather than our life circumstances and conditions, determine our state of well-being.


When we know that it's the way we perceive what happens to us, and not the happening itself, that determines our unhappiness, we are  motivated to look within, to our own thinking, for the source of our unhappiness. We reflect first, rather than react first.


When we are in observer consciousness we experience the following:

Peace, joy, happiness, satisfaction
Emotional well-being
Acceptance of reality
Inner peace
Focus and direction in life
Synchronicity and an unfolding life plan
Honesty and trust in life
Evidence of a purposeful, meaningful life
Source-consciousness
Self-appreciation, self-acceptance
Acceptance of others
Non-reactive responses to life
Intimacy, connection with others
Greater understanding
Self-confidence
Flexibility & willingness to change
Grounded Humility
Courage to stand ground and face life
Prosperity, abundance
Freedom from fear
Health and healing
Self-responsibility
Emotional liberation
Benevolent interaction with the world
Gratitude for life as it is
Freedom from the victim triangle

Abraham Lincoln’s letter to his son’s Head Master

Respected Teacher,

My son will have to learn I know that all men are not just, all men are not true. But teach him also that for ever scoundrel there is a hero; that for every selfish politician, there is a dedicated leader. Teach him that for every enemy there is a friend.

It will take time, I know; but teach him, if you can, that a dollar earned is far more valuable than five found.

Teach him to learn to lose and also to enjoy winning.

Steer him away from envy, if you can.

Teach him the secret of quite laughter. Let him learn early that the bullies are the easiest to tick.

Teach him, if you can, the wonder of books.. but also give him quiet time to ponder over the eternal mystery of birds in the sky, bees in the sun, and flowers on a green hill –side.

In school teach him it is far more honourable to fail than to cheat.

Teach him to have faith in his own ideas, even if every one tells him they are wrong.

Teach him to be gentle with gentle people and tough with the tough.

Try to give my son the strength not to follow the crowd when every one is getting on the bandwagon.

Teach him to listen to all men but teach him also to filter all he hears on a screen of truth and take only the good that comes through.

Teach him, if you can, how to laugh when he is sad. Teach him there is no shame in tears. Teach him to scoff at cynics and to beware of too much sweetness.

Teach him to sell his brawn and brain to the highest bidders; but never to put a price tag on his heart and soul.

Teach him to close his ears to a howling mob… and to stand and fight if he thinks he’s right.

Treat him gently; but do not cuddle him because only the test of fire makes fine steel.

Let him have the courage to be impatient, let him have the patience to be brave. Teach him always to have sublime faith in himself because then he will always have sublime faith in mankind.

This is a big order; but see what you can do. He is such a fine little fellow, my son.


Abraham Lincoln.