Victim consciousness is a psychological state that perceives the world as being the cause of our well-being.Victim consciousness is not about the external situations we go through, nor is it about what other people do or say to us. Victim consciousness is a painful way of
thinking about the situations and life experiences we go through.
When we are in victim consciousness we mistreat others and ourselves while looking for someone or something to blame for the unhappy circumstances in our lives. In victim consciousness we either attack or retreat from life. There is no real, lasting peace to be
found in victim consciousness.
We cannot overcome victim consciousness by ignoring it, nor can we "defeat" it. We cannot attain freedom from victim consciousness through any kind of win-lose/victor-victim sort of challenge because that approach still leaves someone as the loser/victim. We trade places for the moment perhaps but we're still on the victim triangle.
The real antidote to victim consciousness is what I call observer consciousness.
Observer consciousness is the ability to detach from our life circumstances and personal encounters enough to observe and question them. Observer consciousness is a psychological state that is dependent upon the knowledge that our inside emotional state,
rather than our life circumstances and conditions, determine our state of well-being.
When we know that it's the way we perceive what happens to us, and not the happening itself, that determines our unhappiness, we are motivated to look within, to our own thinking, for the source of our unhappiness. We reflect first, rather than react first.
When we are in observer consciousness we experience the following:
Peace, joy, happiness, satisfaction
Emotional well-being
Acceptance of reality
Inner peace
Focus and direction in life
Synchronicity and an unfolding life plan
Honesty and trust in life
Evidence of a purposeful, meaningful life
Source-consciousness
Self-appreciation, self-acceptance
Acceptance of others
Non-reactive responses to life
Intimacy, connection with others
Greater understanding
Self-confidence
Flexibility & willingness to change
Grounded Humility
Courage to stand ground and face life
Prosperity, abundance
Freedom from fear
Health and healing
Self-responsibility
Emotional liberation
Benevolent interaction with the world
Gratitude for life as it is
Freedom from the victim triangle
thinking about the situations and life experiences we go through.
When we are in victim consciousness we mistreat others and ourselves while looking for someone or something to blame for the unhappy circumstances in our lives. In victim consciousness we either attack or retreat from life. There is no real, lasting peace to be
found in victim consciousness.
We cannot overcome victim consciousness by ignoring it, nor can we "defeat" it. We cannot attain freedom from victim consciousness through any kind of win-lose/victor-victim sort of challenge because that approach still leaves someone as the loser/victim. We trade places for the moment perhaps but we're still on the victim triangle.
The real antidote to victim consciousness is what I call observer consciousness.
Observer consciousness is the ability to detach from our life circumstances and personal encounters enough to observe and question them. Observer consciousness is a psychological state that is dependent upon the knowledge that our inside emotional state,
rather than our life circumstances and conditions, determine our state of well-being.
When we know that it's the way we perceive what happens to us, and not the happening itself, that determines our unhappiness, we are motivated to look within, to our own thinking, for the source of our unhappiness. We reflect first, rather than react first.
When we are in observer consciousness we experience the following:
Peace, joy, happiness, satisfaction
Emotional well-being
Acceptance of reality
Inner peace
Focus and direction in life
Synchronicity and an unfolding life plan
Honesty and trust in life
Evidence of a purposeful, meaningful life
Source-consciousness
Self-appreciation, self-acceptance
Acceptance of others
Non-reactive responses to life
Intimacy, connection with others
Greater understanding
Self-confidence
Flexibility & willingness to change
Grounded Humility
Courage to stand ground and face life
Prosperity, abundance
Freedom from fear
Health and healing
Self-responsibility
Emotional liberation
Benevolent interaction with the world
Gratitude for life as it is
Freedom from the victim triangle